Love

My Mistakes In Love

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Growing up I didn’t care about girls, like any typical kid. I found it weird seeing teenagers and adult running after girls, doing what they want them to do and even “sucking face” was the most disgusting thing I saw. Seeing my younger brothers I can say that pretty much all boys are this way.

The problem with me is that, it took me several years to get interested about girls. To be specific I got in to girls when I was about 16 – 17 years old, you can say I’m an overdue bloomer. I regret it, because I lost a lot of opportunities in love department because of it. When I think back to my life, which I do a lot recently, I know a lot of girls where interested in me back then.

The first one I can think back to is O (not her real name, DAA!). She was my neighbor when I was 6; also we went to the same school. I remember the first time she saw me, she said “you’re really handsome” and you can guess what I said “leave me alone…” I’m not saying that she LOVED me but maybe, just maybe if I took the initiative… who know what would’ve happened.

Forward to three year ago, there was this girl, K, that had feelings for me but she never told me. How do I know? Simple because of the looks she gave me, when our eyes met in a classroom and of course the way she talked to me. The problem was I wasn’t interested in her (idiot).

I started developing feelings for her when she transferred to another school. It all started when I had a dream about her. No it wasn’t sexual. In my dream we just spent the day together and I simply felt happy with her. Since this is the first time I had this sort of feelings, I decided to act on them. So I took all my courage in my fingers and started chatting with her on Facebook. I even told her, implicitly, about my feelings.

I think its big achievement for me.

You see I’m the type of person that doesn’t initiate, that means that I’m not the one who will ask somebody about their day, I wait for them to do it. But lately I decided to try to be more “gutsy”. And I can tell you if you’re in the same situation that it’s worth it to leave your comfort zone.

The other day I had a good time talking to what could be my best female friend about this subject. And we have, more or less the same opinion about it. To summaries the hour long conversation: Love isn’t about playing games, showing off you’re the best couple, fighting about nonsense or even depending on another person. It’s about finding someone you can have fun with and spend some quality time with. This is how two young adults think about love.

L’amoure, is a subject that I talked about before. But since I’m entering my 20’s it’s a theme that consumes most of my life. You know that the average male thinks about sex (which is pretty much love) 19 times a day. So I’m sure it will find it way back into this blog one way or the other.

My Secret Little Pleasure

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Time to confess a secret I’ve been trying to keep for a while. I like “Chick flicks”. I’m a man and I can say proudly that I like movies “dealing with love and romance and designed to appeal to a largely female target audience […] a chick-flick is a film designed to have an innate appeal to women, typically young women.” as my good friend Wikipedia describe them. I don’t know why, but it all started when I was feeling bored so I decided to watch “Bridesmaids”, which I will deny if you tell anybody.

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Most men wouldn’t admit to like them, but inside we all love them. Laying down in my bed with a bowl of popcorn and my best friend, my laptop watching a movie that will make me feel something. It wouldn’t give me that adrenaline rush you get after watching movies like “300” or “Die hard”, it will only make you think about your feelings and your love life (if you have one).

Remembering when I was a kid, I would always say that “these movies are for women, a man should watch big action movies”. If I met that kid today I would tell him to give them a try, because there not that bad. Also at school, We all had that debate between Boys and girls about which movie is better, Action vs Romance

One of the many explanations that I have is that my environment influenced my choice of movies.  You see growing up my mother used to tell me “you’re my strong man” (those words that mothers typically say), maybe unconsciously I thought to be a man you had to do this or be that. Also seeing my father, who is a well built man, could have affected me.

Don’t get me weong, I’m not saying that a man should like a certain type of movies. Being a man is a really complex notion that could lead to a very long debate, all I’m just saying is that I like Chick flicks (also Romcoms).

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Sex Makes you smarter ?

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A recent study of University of Maryland found out that sex doesn’t only gives you that sweet feeling, but it also can makes you smarter. Before you get on a sex extravaganza, here’s what psychologists from the University of Maryland are saying:

“The latest research, conducted on mice, found that love-making greatly increased the creation of neurons located within the hippocampus, an area of the brain that is responsible for the formation of long-term memory. And stopping the mice from having sex led to a fall-off in their intelligence. We discovered that even though there had been the production of new neurons, the cognitive abilities acquired during the experiment decreased once the mice were subjected to long periods without sexual activity. Increased sexual activity floods an individual’s brain cells with oxygen, they noted. Neurons are a specialized type of cell which make up the basic building blocks of the nervous system.”

If we dig in the history of the world’s “smartest” people we can find some truth to this study.

Albert Einstein, Time magazine’s man of the century and one of the most legendary physicists of our planet. Didn’t spend all of his time in class room or working on his theorys’; he had more than his faire chair chasing tail. He cheated on his wife more then 10 times, with different women. He even slept with his cousin and her daughter; also we can’t forget about him getting caught with his best friend’s daughter.

The list continues, with a lot of famous names such as: Mozart, Marie Curie, Erwin Schrodinger and even Stephen Hawking

But what i want to ask these psychologists is do they include “self love”, because you know how teenagers can be . And if so would they be the smartest people in the world.

Also a question that asks itself is why aren’t porn stars smart? We all know the amount of “exercise” they get on a daily bases.

The most important question that comes to mind, is if this study is true then should colleges add a course “having sex 101” or “201”, I sure wouldn’t be against it.

The only thing left say to our friends up in Maryland is,  keep up the good work, this kind of scientific breakthrough is what will help our species evolve.

Relationship ?

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I’ve always wondered what would be like being in a relationship. Seriously having someone with whom you can share anything and do everything. I find it a bit weird, don’t you?

All the movies I’ve watched (believe they are a lot) give a mixed message, from the love of your life to the crazy psycho. The sweet meet cue you have with a girl (or a guy). You start talking, you smile and slowly you enter the magical kingdom of Love. Where unicorns run freely in the wild and the sky is filled with a rainbow. What a great place. Those first months with that person that makes you crazy, WOW. You call them all the time; you talk about your feelings and all of that mushy stuff.

I always hear couples say to each other “when you’re not around I can’t breathe”. Seriously, you CAN’T BREATH. So when the two of you are apart you can’t inhale oxygen and exhale carbon dioxide. I find these kinds of, let say feelings stupid. I had a teacher who told me that if someone expresses his feelings to you, to see if they’re truffle: put your hand on theirs and ask them repeat. If he (or she) is dishonest they will make an excuse to remove their hand. I’ve yet to try this trick but feel free to use it and tell me how it goes.

I really get mad when I hear about other people’s relationship, I don’t know if it’s jealousy or something else but I just get mad. The other day at school I overheard some girls talking about how they are in ‘loove’, it got me pissed off for no reason.

ImageThe funny thing is I’ve had my heart broking without being in a relationship, wired. It happed because of  the phenomenon that we call ‘having a crush’. Isn’t it worse? We all had them if you care to admit it or not, on our teachers (good times), neighbors, parent’s friends… But the worst thing is having towards a friend. It sucks when you find your crush with someone else, and the funny thing you can’t say squat about it. It just sucks.

In conclusion I want to assure you that I don’t want to be in a relationship. But if someone wants to be in one with me, in that case I would be up for it 🙂