Growing up I didn’t care about girls, like any typical kid. I found it weird seeing teenagers and adult running after girls, doing what they want them to do and even “sucking face” was the most disgusting thing I saw. Seeing my younger brothers I can say that pretty much all boys are this way.
The problem with me is that, it took me several years to get interested about girls. To be specific I got in to girls when I was about 16 – 17 years old, you can say I’m an overdue bloomer. I regret it, because I lost a lot of opportunities in love department because of it. When I think back to my life, which I do a lot recently, I know a lot of girls where interested in me back then.
The first one I can think back to is O (not her real name, DAA!). She was my neighbor when I was 6; also we went to the same school. I remember the first time she saw me, she said “you’re really handsome” and you can guess what I said “leave me alone…” I’m not saying that she LOVED me but maybe, just maybe if I took the initiative… who know what would’ve happened.
Forward to three year ago, there was this girl, K, that had feelings for me but she never told me. How do I know? Simple because of the looks she gave me, when our eyes met in a classroom and of course the way she talked to me. The problem was I wasn’t interested in her (idiot).
I started developing feelings for her when she transferred to another school. It all started when I had a dream about her. No it wasn’t sexual. In my dream we just spent the day together and I simply felt happy with her. Since this is the first time I had this sort of feelings, I decided to act on them. So I took all my courage in my fingers and started chatting with her on Facebook. I even told her, implicitly, about my feelings.
I think its big achievement for me.
You see I’m the type of person that doesn’t initiate, that means that I’m not the one who will ask somebody about their day, I wait for them to do it. But lately I decided to try to be more “gutsy”. And I can tell you if you’re in the same situation that it’s worth it to leave your comfort zone.
The other day I had a good time talking to what could be my best female friend about this subject. And we have, more or less the same opinion about it. To summaries the hour long conversation: Love isn’t about playing games, showing off you’re the best couple, fighting about nonsense or even depending on another person. It’s about finding someone you can have fun with and spend some quality time with. This is how two young adults think about love.
L’amoure, is a subject that I talked about before. But since I’m entering my 20’s it’s a theme that consumes most of my life. You know that the average male thinks about sex (which is pretty much love) 19 times a day. So I’m sure it will find it way back into this blog one way or the other.
Time to confess a secret I’ve been trying to keep for a while. I like “Chick flicks”. I’m a man and I can say proudly that I like movies “dealing with love and romance and designed to appeal to a largely female target audience […] a chick-flick is a film designed to have an innate appeal to women, typically young women.” as my good friend Wikipedia describe them. I don’t know why, but it all started when I was feeling bored so I decided to watch “Bridesmaids”, which I will deny if you tell anybody.
Most men wouldn’t admit to like them, but inside we all love them. Laying down in my bed with a bowl of popcorn and my best friend, my laptop watching a movie that will make me feel something. It wouldn’t give me that adrenaline rush you get after watching movies like “300” or “Die hard”, it will only make you think about your feelings and your love life (if you have one).
Remembering when I was a kid, I would always say that “these movies are for women, a man should watch big action movies”. If I met that kid today I would tell him to give them a try, because there not that bad. Also at school, We all had that debate between Boys and girls about which movie is better, Action vs Romance
One of the many explanations that I have is that my environment influenced my choice of movies. You see growing up my mother used to tell me “you’re my strong man” (those words that mothers typically say), maybe unconsciously I thought to be a man you had to do this or be that. Also seeing my father, who is a well built man, could have affected me.
Don’t get me weong, I’m not saying that a man should like a certain type of movies. Being a man is a really complex notion that could lead to a very long debate, all I’m just saying is that I like Chick flicks (also Romcoms).
Tonight is the night and it’s going to happen again and again. I’m having what I call “the up feeling”, you don’t know it. Well to keep it short it’s that surge of inspiration and motivation that makes you feel like you could do anything and overcome any difficulties the universe throws at your face. If my calculations are right I get it once a week, and it’s followed immediately by “the down feeling”. You guessed it right it’s the exact opposite of the first one. It’s just that feeling of boredom, discouragement and mostly depression that we love and value. But I fought throw to write this post that will be soon forgotten in this blogosphere.
Just a couple hours ago I was planning on studying much harder and getting ready to start my own business. Amazing ideas were flying in my head, I was gonna create this, invent that … I was just about to start my own t-shirt shop, WOW what an original idea. I was all hyped-up and excited about it. Last month i was trying to create a revolutionary app that will change the world, and of course make me rich. Believe me I spent hours studying about programming languages, servers, Java, Object-C…
I can honestly say that is my brain was a movie, I’d be blockbuster.
But soon later I was like “It sounds like a lot of works”. That urge was quickly silenced by sadness, thoughts of “what did I do with my life” and mostly hugger (I get really hungry after all this turmoil) . The roller coaster that is my feelings took a plunge into some dark waters.
What I want scientist to do is take my “up feeling” and synthesize to a drug. So whenever I’m feeling down I’d take a pill and up we go. Wait a minute, I think they already have that drug… its cocaine. Should i start using?
We aren’t like you, we don’t live in the same world. To them it’s really simple: “to have a descent life you need to go to school, get a degree and work your but off for the next 30 years”. This way of life doesn’t work in this age, I’ve developed a “theory” about this so bear with me:
I suppose that our parent’s (and their parent’s) had such excitement in their days that they want for us a more peaceful life. I don’t mean by excitement staying late partying or having some great adventures, I’m talking about wars (WWII, Vietnam, the cold war…) and economical depression. This is the main reason, in my modest opinion, that would make them pressure us to go for the nice life some would call it the “boring” life.
We all know how fast the world is, companies want fast and efficient employees. However if we look at some of history’s most successful men, you might notice that they have something in common: Muhammad, Jesus, Thomas Edison, Bill Gates, Princess Diana … they all didn’t go or dropped out of school but weren’t they successful.
Don’t get me wrong I believe you need an education but I don’t think that you need school to get it. So what I want to say is “dear parents, this is a new age with new opportunities and challenges that don’t necessarily require us to have degree”.
NB: Don’t go out saying “they dropped out, so should I”, the truth is that they had visions and ideas that changed the world. One thing you can take from them is the courage to follow your dreams (I know it’s kind of cheese, but so is most truths).
A recent study of University of Maryland found out that sex doesn’t only gives you that sweet feeling, but it also can makes you smarter. Before you get on a sex extravaganza, here’s what psychologists from the University of Maryland are saying:
“The latest research, conducted on mice, found that love-making greatly increased the creation of neurons located within the hippocampus, an area of the brain that is responsible for the formation of long-term memory. And stopping the mice from having sex led to a fall-off in their intelligence. We discovered that even though there had been the production of new neurons, the cognitive abilities acquired during the experiment decreased once the mice were subjected to long periods without sexual activity. Increased sexual activity floods an individual’s brain cells with oxygen, they noted. Neurons are a specialized type of cell which make up the basic building blocks of the nervous system.”
If we dig in the history of the world’s “smartest” people we can find some truth to this study.
Albert Einstein, Time magazine’s man of the century and one of the most legendary physicists of our planet. Didn’t spend all of his time in class room or working on his theorys’; he had more than his faire chair chasing tail. He cheated on his wife more then 10 times, with different women. He even slept with his cousin and her daughter; also we can’t forget about him getting caught with his best friend’s daughter.
The list continues, with a lot of famous names such as: Mozart, Marie Curie, Erwin Schrodinger and even Stephen Hawking
But what i want to ask these psychologists is do they include “self love”, because you know how teenagers can be . And if so would they be the smartest people in the world.
Also a question that asks itself is why aren’t porn stars smart? We all know the amount of “exercise” they get on a daily bases.
The most important question that comes to mind, is if this study is true then should colleges add a course “having sex 101” or “201”, I sure wouldn’t be against it.
The only thing left say to our friends up in Maryland is, keep up the good work, this kind of scientific breakthrough is what will help our species evolve.